Transitioning from mom to lover

feature 4, mom - By Rebecca Sinclair on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 17:12

Whether your kids are crying babies or dramatic teens, it is always difficult to take the mommy hat off and slip into the sexy role of lover. Here are some pointers to get you started.

1. Know that you deserve great sex. Sexual pleasure is not only good for your heart and soul, but it is good for your brain and stress level too. Getting that adrenaline pumping makes you a more relaxed and well-round person. And a good orgasm is excellent relief from the stress of parenting.

2. Take your time. Find the thing that helps you transition from mom to woman. That may be a shower, a massage, a bubble bath, or a glass of wine on the back porch. Allow yourself that indulgence. Don’t settle for quickies all the time. Take the time to get in the mood so you can better enjoy the intimacy.

3. Have a date night. Whether you are going out or staying home, set aside some intimate, non-sexual time with you and your man. Refresh your mind in knowing that you are more than "just" a mom. You are an intimate being.

4. Flatter your man. As much as you want to be wanted, he does too. Let him know what you like and love about him. If he nibbles the right spot, encourage him. If he says just the right thing or licks in just the right place, tell him! And if he looks good doing it, let him know. Go over every inch of his body with your lips, tongue, or fingers. Take the time to caress and be caressed. This transitioning period is essential to turning off the mommy-radar that is so built-in to our heads.

5. Sext. Everyone has a cell phone these days… use it. Exchange sexy texts in the middle of the day just to keep your mind focused on the pleasure that awaits you in the evening. Keep it as simple as "looking forward to tonight" or as naughty as sending a picture of body part you want kissed. The limits are up to you, but the rewards can be huge.

Just because you have a kid doesn’t mean you (and your libido) are dead. Use those curves and rekindle your passion. You, your man, and your kids all deserve the happiness that comes from knowing the mom is happy.