Setting limits on flirting

flirt, limits, marriage, relationship, setting limits - By Rebecca Sinclair on Friday, September 24, 2010 - 22:11

Flirting is fun, but when does flirting cross the line when a married or committed person is involved? Here are my thoughts, but I would love to hear your feedback as well.

When has flirting gone too far?

1. If you would not do what you are doing if your partner (or their partner) was present, you have probably gone too far.

2. If you would be uncomfortable with your partner DOING, SAYING, or ACTING the same way, you have probably crossed the line.

But what if I’M not in a relationship? If you are not in a relationship, but the person you are flirting with is, are the limits set by you or the committed party? That’s a sticky situation. After all, if they were REALLY committed, would they be involved in the flirts?

To me, beyond ethics, morals, and underlying beliefs, the bottom line is this… if the “committed” person is flirting with you while attached to someone else, why do you think it would be any different if you were in a relationship with them? While some people can change, in most cases, cheaters are not transformed, they simply find a new person to cheat on.

What are your thoughts? Are you in a relationship? How much flirting is too much? Some people’s personalities are naturally more flirtatious. Is that an excuse? If you are not in a relationship, are committed people still fair game for your flirtation? Do you seek out committed people, or do you prefer to flirt with “available” people? Why? What is your personal experience with flirting while one party is in a committed relationship? How did the flirting begin, and how did it end?

Comment below. We would love to hear from you.

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