Quickly have a quickie!

better sex, foreplay, human sexuality, marriage, quickie, quickies, relationships, sex, sexual intercourse, vibrators - By Brandie on Monday, December 13, 2010 - 16:07

Quickies are, in their simplest form; quick sex.  The quickie has gotten a bad rap lately, as there's been so much push on romance, seduction and hours long sexcapades.  And while sex that lasts an hour or two can be incredible, sometimes it takes a 5 minute romp to help you have better sex all around.

What is a quickie?

A quickie is an act of sex that's spontaneous and is over in a very short amount of time.  Regarding which sex acts constitutes a quickie can be personal and relative to the individuals involved, however traditionally any sex act which leads to orgasm; blow job, fingering, vaginal intercourse.  

A quickie happens when you let go of your sexual inhibitions and allow yourself to fully feel and fully experience your sexuality in the moment.  

Why should we have quickies? 

The best part of quickies is perhaps just that: they're quick.  It's simple sex that allows you to get out that sexual heat in a short period of time.  This is really great especially if you're very busy and have children.  

Quickies are something anybody can incorporate into their sex life.  Why is that?  Because, especially if you're in a monogamous relationship, all it takes is 2 things; you and your lover.  While there are some sex accessories that can add some spice and flavor to your quickie, they are not needed.  

Opening yourself and your relationship up to spontaneous sex can help your sex life in many ways!  For starters by allowing yourself to experience the primal passion of lust and sex you're acknowledging your attraction to your partner and showing them just how much you are attracted to them.  

Secondly by taking your sex out of the bedroom and into new territory like your kitchen, bathroom or even your car you're taking the monotony out of your current sex life and introducing something new and exciting into it.  Doing this will not only increase the excitement but also will create more communication in your relationship.

Thirdly, imagine the memory!  Just think; it's the next day after having a spontaneous quickie the night before.  You're sitting across the dinner table from your lover and you can see by the gleam in their eye that they're remembering it as well.  You're thinking about how good it felt to just let go and fully experience you're sexual attraction to one another.  Suddenly, you're wondering what else he'd be willing to try...

Where can you have a quickie?

Anywhere!  As this poll on Better Sex shows, people have quickies everywhere from their living room to in their car and even other places not mentioned specifically in the poll answer list!  The spontaneity one enjoys from simply giving into their erotic side can be intoxicating.  But not only that it can really add something spicy and special to their relationship.  Here's a few ideas for you, just keep in mind things like consequences if you get caught and are in public:

• In the car.
• In your back yard.
• In your front yard.
• In your kitchen.
• On the washing machine or dryer.  (Try it while the unit is running!  The vibrations will really create some unique sensations for you!)
• On the kitchen table.

How do you have a quickie?

Well, that depends.  Do you want it to be spontaneous, or do you want to plan a surprise nooner for your lover? Let's look at these separately.  

Surprise Nooner

A surprise "nooner" can be very fun and erotic, creating a special and fun memory just for you and your lover.  A nooner can be planned as a surprise when your lover comes home for lunch from work, or you could go visit them at work and have the quickie there.  So, how do you go about planning this?  Well, here's a few ideas for you:

• Surprise at home - If your partner regularly comes home for lunch you can surprise them several different ways without giving them advanced warning, depending on the time your partner has available on lunch:
  • Devise a "trail" for him to follow to the bedroom to find you in a sexy position laying on the bed.
  • Have a tasty, sensual meal cooked and ready for them.
  • Lay naked on the dinner table with the food prepared and set on you and/or around you.  Let him eat off you!
• Surprise at the office - Depending on the situation of your partner's job, if you know they will be alone, you could dress in something sexy and surprise them at the office.
  • Wear a skirt with no panties to be easily bent over a desk and entered from behind.
  • Dress in something too sexy to wear outside but cover it with a long trench style coat.  Take it off once you know you're alone in his office and see his eyes light up!

• Sexting - This is where you send sexy text messages to your lover's cell phone.  It could also be naughty e-mails or naughty phone calls; whichever fits your situation best.  You could:
  
  • Take and send a photo of yourself in sexy lingerie waiting for him to get home for his lunch break.
  • Send texts of what you want to do to them when you get together, or what you'd like them to do to you.
  • Tell them what you're doing to yourself while thinking of them.

SPONTANEOUS 

Spontaneous quickies can be fun and intoxicating, but you don't want to get caught!  Or do you?  There aren't many ways to plan spontaneity, however there are a few things you can do, if this is something you are open to, that will make it easier and go smoother.

• Keep small, sample packs of lube in your purse.  This will help if your body hasn't responded as quickly as your mind has, plus if you're going for an oral sex quickie the flavored lube will help keep things spicy!  
• Keep a few condoms in your purse as well.  Safety should be top priority, and by keeping condoms in your purse you know you will always have a barrier during penetrative sex.
• If you like vibrations, there are many small and discreet vibrators you can keep with you to ramp up the fun!
  • Invisi-Vibes can fit right into your panties for vibrating fun only you will know is going on!
  • A Vibrating tongue ring can take oral sex to the next level in a very discreet way! Especially if you're looking for a quickie, something like this can help you finish that much faster!
  • A small, rechargeable clitoral stimulator will fit snugly in your purse and you won't have to worry about batteries if you keep it charged up!  A vibrator like this can be quietly used on both you and your partner to ramp up the fun or provide some quick foreplay before you hop in the sack! 
  • A remote controlled bullet vibrator is a way you can spontaneously begin your foreplay in public with no one the wiser.  With a wireless control pack the vibrations can be triggered by your lover several feet away.  Something like this could be your signal to hurry up and head to the restroom for that quickie you've been dying to have! 

Who can engage in quickies?

Anyone!  You don't have to be a porn star or adult model in order to let your inhibitions go.  It simply takes a bit of an open mind, a wiling partner and a little sexual tension.  Then; let go! Pull your skirt up, pull your panties down and let your partner have you!  

Incorporating spontaneous sex in your sex life will do one thing: cause you to have better sex.  It will open your mind to new possibilities regarding sex, give you better orgasms and reinvigorate your sex life.  What's to lose?  

Photo By:  Ben Pollard