The pros and cons of porn for couples

What porn you can wacth is what you can copy, not only learn.

Candy tends to get ideas for things she wants to try from porn. We know we can't do everything but every now and then we see something we have not tried and wow we have a great time. As we watch more porn we find we get aroused by scenes that we though where a little too graphic before.

Our workdays are normally hectic and intensely stressful and our family life is just as demanding. Our house is the gathering place for all of our sons' college friends and our teenage daughter's schedule of sports, gymnastics, and orthodontist appointments keeps us constantly on the go. Add to all that a myriad of everyday mundane activities, none of which is conducisve to thoughts of sex, and all of our flirting and teasing each other by e-mail and phone calls during the day seems wasted by the time we get any one-on-one time together as neither of us is usually thinking about sex any more. We both know how important it is to indulge in this most intimate expression of our love and how much our relationship benefits when we do, but all the "stuff" of the day has displaced our earlier hopeful thoughts of sex with those of sleep. We could make a conscious effort to arouse each other at 1 or 2am when we often finally lock up the house and get to bed, but knowing that the alarm is going off at 5:30am, neither of us can muster the willpower to overcome the overwhelming desire for sleep.

The solution for us is to watch an adult movie together to quickly realign our thoughts toward sex. Usually we choose one that features short, erotically charged vignettes that allow us to get aroused quickly and then redirect our attention exclusively toward each other forgetting everything else including the video and sleep. Obviously we want the video to be sexually arousing, and for us, that means that the participants need to appear to be fully engaged and focused on pleasing each other—not always looking at the camera.

We prefer men and women whose bodies tend toward a more realistic representation of beauty and sexuality that allows us to enjoy the vignettes without intimidation—without feeling as if we are competing with the huge silicone breasts and flawless hourglass bodies or humongous penises of some adult films. We want to see lots of passionate kissing and caressing but it needs to move quickly into genuinely hot sex that is still tender and erotic instead of being an in-your-face extreme, raunchy, and vulgar exploitation.

Subtle attention to details like a close-up of the woman's toes curling that pans to the reason why; and shots of her natural breasts bouncing and nipples drawing invisible circles in the air are what arouses us the most. The scenery, sets, lighting, costumes, and direction, while less important than the sex, are a subconscious yet integral part of our experience. Artistic use of muted colors, soft lighting, hard and rough textures and shapes contrasting the smooth naked bodies, fabulous sets and costumes, and excellent photography make the perfect backdrop for sensuous kissing and caressing, breasts bouncing and swaying naturally, and fabulous close-up penetrations between passionate, completely engaged performers.

Playgirl videos almost always meet these criteria and we are finding an increasing variety of other adult film producers that seem to be moving in that direction as they become more mainstream.

We actually enjoy watching couple-oriented porn together.  Once you get past the "all-too-common" story lines, fake orgasms, and sometimes poor camera work, they can increase arousal and result in enhanced personal experiences.  Biggest problem is having to go back to re-watch parts of the movie after having some real-life fun!

I think a lot of peopel think that women don't watch porn alone, but I do. I enjoy it. My husband isnt around much, and it kinda helps me get over the rough spots. We watch them together and alone. I think the are a healthy part of a relationship.

Why does main stream porn almost always have a two guys and one girl scene?
I don't know many men who even want to think about that much less see it. Is it there for the women? Because it is NOT part of my fantasies?!

I was totally put-off by every scene when I felt that there were fake orgasms. Maybe they should weed all the fakeness out, or create a new type of porn. Call it REALporn. Just like there is a genre for everything else. I have found that the Sinclair Institute movies are well done and real, on top of the instructional view. Bonus! :)

Clearance and I had not watch any porn until I became a reviewer. I think my opening up and letting porn into our bedroom had been a very good thing. It's helped me over come a lot of issues, and become more more satified in bed. It's just so easy to say do that to me! With the visual Clearance understands what I need. I just have to say I'd like that. Can you try that! Let do that! It also is great when it's hard to get the jucies flowing. I like the Playgirl DVD the most! Look us up on FB