Playing Dress Up, Why Vinyl Is So Sexy For Us.

bustier, communication, corset, dominance and submission, domination, fetish, fetish wear, lingerie, pvc, vinyl - By the playful couple on Wednesday, July 28, 2010 - 21:42

The lights go down as he waits for her to finish “freshening up”.  A blade of bright light slices through door jamb as she prepares the reveal.  As the door slowly creaks open, his pulse starts to rise.  First her leg comes into view, fishnets, so delightfully trite.  Her hand wraps the side of the door pulling it open a few more inches.  Her fingers are black, shiny, they look wet.  It hits him, “Oh my God, she’s wearing the vinyl ensemble I gave her, gloves and all!” 

Sure enough, black vinyl wraps her fingers, hands, forearms, all the way to her elbows.  She swings her leg around the door, as if straddling it from the backside.  She’s dons the black strappy platform heels she keeps hidden in the back of the closet.  The anticipation builds…  As the door glides past her torso, the final reveal, his excitement now more than obvious, begins to ache.  A black vinyl corset with little red lace ruffles on top of the cups.  Metal clasps follow the line of her cleavage down to the top of the black vinyl g-string that barely covers what will ultimately grant him release.  She looks into his eyes, hers smoky, lovingly decorated.  That stare sends a jolt through his body, he can’t help but gawk.  “That’s my wife?” he asks himself silently barely believing his own eyes.

These simple garments that do more to reveal than conceal, have tremendous power.  For many couples, lingerie is the obvious go to for adding some spice to the bedroom.  For others, it is a staple, a sexual wardrobe if you will. 

My wife and I love keeping it fresh, new, and exciting as often as we can.  Be it lace, vinyl, leather, silk, or nylon, I love to see the look in her eyes when she notices my excitement.  So, when I find a new corset, bra and panty set, or whatever, I show her what I’ve found.  Not everything I envision ends up in our closet, but she understands what it does for me when she puts so much effort into getting made up.  She’s beautiful, more so than I think I deserve as a man, and really doesn’t need the extra effort.  That doesn’t matter.  What does is that she WANTS to add a little more sexiness to our playtime.  It could be a little eye shadow or lipstick to leave make-up smears on the pillow, or leather and lace to get me excited, regardless, these little things show me that she wants me.  The value I place on these simple things is impossible to convey in words.    

The old cliché says more or less, that men want a lady in public, and a freak in bed.  For me, the latter is absolutely true.  Whether it is or isn’t some carnal desire embedded in my DNA is debatable, but unimportant.  The fact remains, when I’m having sex with my own personal naughty girl, there is no better sex to be had.  The lingerie may not change who she is as a person, but it definitely helps her to play the part, and certainly helps her to look the part as well.

Everyone has their own preference in color, material, attitude, style, and so on.  It’s up to each of us to ask for what we want.  Like anything sexual, communication is an absolute must.  Long ago, I told her what my taste in lingerie was.  I’m partial to women in black vinyl, and she has built on this through the years.  Now, as a reward for doing that extra load of dishes, or as a consolation for having a long day at work, from time to time she throws on some stockings, or a pair of gloves.  This simple act, two extra minutes of preparation, fills me with such a desire, such gratitude.  Since she started taking steps to make sex fun and exhilarating, I feel more appreciated, and I want to be a better husband to her. 

After children, our sex life started to dwindle, which didn’t make either of us happy.  Date nights are hard to come by, let alone the ability to vocalize our pleasure during our seldom late night encounters.  So, when we do have the opportunity to scream and moan and slam the headboard into the wall, why not take it to the next level?  What’s to keep us from flipping around this way, trying that angle, or slipping an extra finger in the other spot?

Every relationship has a delicate balance of give and take, sort of a scratching each other’s backs deal, and it is this balance that make great sex both fun and attainable.  By asking for what you want, opening up some of your fantasies, you not only are allowing your partner to better know who you are as a person, but you are also showing them that these things are ok to talk about, and inviting them to reciprocate.  In short, by taking the initiative, and asking for what I wanted, she was presented with the prospect of being able to better please me.  As such, I’m enjoying our sex life now more than before we had our kids, because we’re having real, passionate sex.  In return, I give her the sexual and non-sexual favors that she desires.  We’re happier as a couple, and our lives, in general, are more fulfilling. 

So ladies, if sex is on the menu tonight, why not wear something exciting?  Plain sex is good.  It’s the glue that keeps a married couple together.  Pasta is pasta steak is steak, but when paired with a good wine, the whole dynamic of the meal changes.  Most men are simple, regular sex = happy, steamy sex = really happy.  I can’t speak for all men, but at least for myself, I know that I am a quality over quantity type of guy.  Wrap my gift in something shiny and black and I’m a push over.  Guys, show her how much you appreciate her, and just maybe she’ll be the naughty girl you want her to be in the bedroom.