5 Libido Roadblocks and How to Fix Them

body image, exhaustion, libido, relationship, sex, sex drive, stress - By Rebecca Sinclair on Wednesday, September 1, 2010 - 13:00

Is your sex drive in park? Here are some roadblocks to watch for and how to fix them.

1. Lack of intimacy. Sexual desire builds on itself the more often you have sex. Try to make sex part of your weekly routine rather than allowing it to slip out of your relationship all together. Good sex is like chocolate… the more you have it, the more you want more.
2. Stress. Money troubles, family turmoil, job woes, and an overly full schedule can all reek havoc on your sex drive. Try to find a healthy stress reducer like yoga, exercise, or talking about your concerns. The better you can handle stress, the higher your interest in intimacy.
3. Body image. If you do not feel good about how you feel, it is difficult to get in the mood for your partner to see you naked. While exercise and eating well can improve your overall body shape, much of self image is actually in your own head. Ask yourself what you need to do to make yourself feel better about what you see in the mirror. Would lingerie help? How about a new haircut or some cologne? Love the you that you are and let it shine!
4. Relationship turmoil. If your relationship is strained for any reason, the libido usually drops. Emotional closeness plays a huge part in sexual desire, especially in women.
5. Exhaustion. If you are lacking in sleep, you may find yourself putting sex on the back burner. Although life often overwhelms our schedules, the quicker you can get a good sleep regiment underway, the easier it will be to get your sex life back on track. Consider taking turns with the kids at night, putting the dishes off till morning, or just reducing the overall “requirements” of a day.

Do you see yourself in any of these pitfalls? Comment below. We would love to hear from you.

Photo by: Nathalie Laure