Tip # 1: Being a Better Lover
Many of us want to know how to have better sex. Luckily there are plenty of products and services on the market to help us gain that knowledge. For some, watching an educational sex video is helpful. For others, doing research by reading up on new techniques -- and then putting them in practice at home -- is enough. Many couples learn together by joining seminars and events that are geared toward enriching their sex life together. There is no shortage of assistance available to those who want to learn how to be better connected to their mates sexually. There is no one right way, so be open to trying new things and most importantly, have fun!
Tip # 2: The Kama Sutra
Contrary to popular belief, the ancient book of The Kama Sutra -- or, Aphorisms on Love -- was not intended as a sex manual. These sacred writings form India about sexual union were only a portion of the book’s deeper message of spiritual wholeness. Still, Kama Sutra sex positions are illustrated and explained in many modern sex books and videos as a means to develop our sexual acumen. Many of the tantra positions are not so different from what we already practice. For example a position which is called The Splitting of the Bamboo is very similar to an alternate version of the Missionary position, in that the woman places one of her legs on her lover's shoulder, and stretches the other out, then switches the position of her legs. Experimenting with different lovemaking positions such as the ones illustrated in the Kama Sutra can help add excitement to ones lovemaking.
Tip # 3: Adult Sex Videos
Adult sex videos are a helpful method for spicing up your sex life. Whether or not you have a partner, watching adult films can certainly assist you in improving your skills as a lover, but many of the how-to videos and DVDs are extremely educational from a scientific standpoint. Many feature commentary by medical doctors and licensed sex therapists, who offer invaluable knowledge about how the male and female body functions during sex. In addition, you are often able to view real couples putting lessons they learned into practice, which serves to demonstrate that we are all capable of having satisfying sex lives.
Tip # 4: Erotic Cinema
The adult movie industry has made great strides since the old days of "stag films." With developments in film and video technologies, these films are looking and sounding better than ever. The desires of the adult movie-viewing public have been heard as well, and now many films are so well-written and acted that they have attained the status of "erotic cinema." There are even annual awards shows -- much like the Academy Awards -- held to honor the best in adult film industry.
Tip # 5: Erotic Literature vs. Pornography
There has been an ongoing debate over what constitutes erotic literature versus pornography. The deciding factor in English-speaking courts has often come down to the notion of perceived literary merit. (If it has it, it’s literature; if not, it’s porn.) Historically, the conflict came about in response to works aimed at men, which often depicted explicit sexual acts. Many of these also contained erotic visual imagery (illustrations of sex acts) which were easier to prosecute than arguing the meanings behind the written word. In the US, the First Amendment protects written fiction, but many other countries have made erotic writing illegal, regardless of whether it is literary or pornographic.
Tip # 6: Home Sex Videos
With the availability and affordability of home video recording equipment, more and more couples today have begun making their own sex videos. Shooting your own videos with you and your partner as the stars is a great way to keep the thrill in your sex life. Some long-distance lovers even film lovemaking sessions so the distance won't be so hard to take. In addition to recording sex on tape, many long-distance couples use web cameras to have sexual encounters over the Internet. This is a bit riskier, since the Internet is so heavily used and security can be compromised. Although homemade sex videos are usually meant to be seen only by those making them, there is also a huge market for what is commonly called "amateur porn.”
Tip # 7: Internet Erotica
The Internet has brought with it a new era of erotic film and literature. This boom in both industries is due in part to the fact that the more discreet consumer does not have to face a store clerk or postal worker. Not only can you find sales of quality erotic books and films online, but there are entire sites devoted to both categories. Erotic magazines (or, e-zines) abound, with a varying array of quality short stories and longer works. There are thousands of sites geared specifically toward erotic video clips and feature films as well.
Tip # 8: Write Your Own Erotic Story
If you’re at all good with words, or even just good at relaying a tale, you might consider writing an erotic story for your partner. It’s an excellent tool for seduction and a fun exercise for you. One of the best things about erotic literature is that there are as many genres of erotic writing as there are in non-erotic writing. From science fiction to mystery, the options are endless. Don’t know what to write about? Try recounting your favorite sexual experience with your partner. Add as many details as you can so that when your lover reads the piece, s/he can relive it. Here’s a tip: If you get aroused while writing your story, it’s almost a guarantee your partner will when s/he reads it.
Tip # 9: Erotic Film Trivia
The very first kiss on film was between a Victorian couple seen in the Edison kinetoscope “The May Irwin Kiss” in 1896. This groundbreaking film is also known as “ The Kiss,” or “The Irwin-Rice Kiss.” This 20-second short film was merely a close-up of a kiss. It was considered shocking and pornographic to early moviegoers. Even the Roman Catholic Church called for censorship. Heating things up even more, less than a year after the Lumieres conducted the first public screening of a film in December 1895, actress Louise Willy was rumored to have stripped for the French film, “Le Bain” (“The Bath”).
Tip # 10: Watching Together
One of the most fun bonding experiences for couples is watching an erotic film together. There are a few things to keep in mind, however, before you get started. First, make sure you both are interested in seeing the film. There’s nothing fun in leaving your partner behind in an attempt to have a good time. Choose the film together. Make sure there is something about it that you both will enjoy. After all, you both will be sharing the experience. Lastly, have fun! Watching the film together may or may not result in the two of you having sex, so don’t expect anything. Just have a good time. It’s most important that the two of you have done something together as a couple.
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