human sexual behavior

In our continued exploration of sexual weaponry, we make a pit stop in couple’s hell: personal fights. Did you know that there is a right way and a wrong way to fight? In fact, productive fighting can actually be a very healthy part of a relationship. You just have to know how to do it.

A productive fight has five main characteristics. 

Many people use sex as a weapon both knowingly and unknowingly. Using intimacy like this can drive a wedge into your relationship that can be very, very difficult to remove.

Wonder if this fits you or your partner? Here are some warning signs.

1.    Withholding sex as a punishment. If you give your partner a timeout from sex like you would ground a child from a toy, you are using sex as a weapon. Sex is designed to bring two people together, not to tear them apart.

2.    Past indiscretions. If you continue to bring up sexual missteps from your lover’s past, sex has become a weapon. Whether the past problems were with you or another lover, the best place to leave to past is in the past.

Have you ever wanted to find out how you compare to the average person when it comes to sexual frequency? If asking your friends is not your style, SELF magazine did the dirty work for you. They asked women across the country how often they are having sex, and the answers might just surprise you.

Sexual frequency broken down by relationship status

According to SELF magazine’s “Are you having enough sex?”: