Role Reversal Part 3: Strap-On Fun

by blogbettersex

In these blogs we’ve been exploring the unique joys of Role Reversal, a sexual technique that puts the ladies in control while concentrating on her male partner’s pleasure. Not to say that the ladies don’t get their thrills from Role Reversal: most women are delighted to watch their men’s reactions while they do all the work! Pleasing your partner is one of the most satisfying aspects of sex – the way your partner responds during foreplay and at orgasm is a powerful turn-on in itself.

Role Reversal places a heavy emphasis on the male orgasm through stimulation of the prostate gland, known as the “male G-spot,” either through massage, through the use of toys, and preferably a combination of both. You and your man will find the style that works best for both of you.

 Loving penetration, performed correctly, can result in a longer-lasting orgasm that involves the entire body, not just ejaculation. This is sometimes called a “full-body orgasm” because of its all-encompassing power.

In previous blogs, we’ve covered the art of prostate massage and the use of toys to enhance the whole Role Reversal experience. Now we’re going to take the “Bend Over Boyfriend” techniques to the final step: using strap-on dildos and vibrators for a truly mind-bending fantasy sex session!

The first thing for the woman to do is to find a really well-fitting and sturdy harness to support the strap-on. Nothing’s more frustrating than to be thrusting away while constantly trying to adjust the harness or keep it on.

You need to match the harness with the dildo or vibrator you plan to use.  If you’re using a smaller, lightweight dildo, you can go with a lighter harness. But remember: Role Reversal can be addictive! You and your man will probably want to go on to heavier vibrators or heftier dildos, so it makes sense to make a solid investment in a harness that will work with a variety of sex toys. Almost all harnesses are adjustable, but some have more flexibility in the fit than others. Be sure to check the maximum adjustable size of the harness, especially if you’re a Plus or Queen size.

Many harnesses add the extra naughty thrill of an open crotch, which means that you can go right from using the dildo or vibrator to intercourse without having to stop all the action in order to take off the harness.

A great place to begin is the Bend Over Beginner Strap-On Kit. It consists of an adjustable velvet and nylon harness, a bonus vibrator and two silicone dildos, one small and one large.

One of our most popular Plus-sized harnesses is the Sedeux Divine Diva, made especially to work with a woman’s curves and sized to fit a wider range of body sizes. The Divine Diva holds any dildo with a flared base, but works especially well with the Sedeux dildo line:  the Please, Flare and Skyn.

Here’s a strap-on that can be used by either men or women! The Vibrating Power Cock Strap-On consists of a hollow, textured dildo with a vibrating tip. Guys can slip right inside it and go all night long, and the ladies love it for Role Reversal because it’s so lightweight.  Multispeed vibrations are controlled by a wired controller. The faux-leather harness is panty-style, with wide-band adjustable straps and elastic sides.

An interesting alternative to the harness/dildo combination is the new Feeldoe Slim Dildo. This extraordinary silicone dildo does away with the harness altogether. It has a bulb end that slips into the vagina and is held securely by the vaginal muscles while the longer end is a regular dildo for prostate stimulation. The Feeldoe Slim stimulates both partners at once, and has a removable bullet for vibration. You can also use it as a double dong.

Also something completely different is the Vibrating Thigh Strap-on. This one straps around your thigh and features a multispeed vibrating dildo. This one’s great if your lover has physical limitations.

We hope our Role Reversal blog series has inspired you and your lover to try this exciting sexual variation. Just find your own pace, take it slow and easy, and have fun!

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

larry August 16, 2011 at 2:34 pm

this role reversal stuff is MEGAHOT

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WD October 18, 2011 at 1:33 am

This is my fantasy, my fetish, my obsession. I’m a straight guy who dreams of being fucked in the ass by a woman with a strap-on dildo. My wife does great anal play on me, including fingering, analingus, and spanking, but I want what she’s not giving me: a real role reversal with a strap-on.

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wenum November 18, 2011 at 6:08 pm

Looking for a good quality NON femdom or sissy strapon dvd. One where the guy actually enjoys it. Has an erection and an orgasm. Any suggestions thanks

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Tyrel February 10, 2012 at 11:18 pm

I cant wait for my wife to get home from visiting family so we can try it she saed yes when i asked her.

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Violet Ivy August 2, 2013 at 4:47 am

As much fun as anal play on the man is there are so many guys still harboring homophobic thoughts about this erogenous zone. What a shame. I encourage all my clients to be open to this. They don’t have to admit it to their buddies but most of them love it. Of course it’s consensual and not all guys are interesting in experimenting….so far. Articles like this are just another step in getting men to accept and investigate this form of role reversal. Bring it on.
Well done!
Violet Ivy
Author
Lucky Girl – How I Survived the Sex Industry

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Rich November 18, 2013 at 5:19 am

We tried a strap on but it just wasn’t realistic looking for my liking. So, we got a feeldoe and I loved it. When I suck on it the end in her would let her really feel it. Now it would tend to slip out when she attempted to penetrate me so I’m thinking of some kind of panties to hold it in place better.

Perfect would be something like a feeldoe that had the capability of growing. That way I could go out in public with my ‘shemale’ wife, dance and feel her pressing against me and then play with her on the drive home.

I just wish she was as into this as I am. I think she mainly does it for me and I’d love it if she was doing it for herself, with me being a very happy side effect!

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